I decided to talk bust line politics a little further with women who are very opinionated about their breasts and about breast issues in general. Enter: Martie Williams, 38C; Ashley Evers, 44D; Ena Billings, 36C; Shay Picket, 32A; Tachelle Wilkes, 34A; Kimberly Morgan, 34B; Beatrice Hall, 48DDD; and Nadra White, 36A. I would say, for the most part, that these women have something some young women haven't mastered yet: the art of self-love and acceptance.
Growing up, did you ever feel like your breasts were too small or too big?
Martie: No. Just right.
Ashley: No. Just right.
Nadra: Yes. Too small. I started developing when I was 12 or13 and a lot of other girls started before me. I remember waiting and feeling like my breasts were too small and never going to come.
Shay: No. Adequate for my size.
Tachelle: Not too small or too big, but I was self conscious of them. I do remember when I started to get boobs-I was self-conscious. Yet it's a part of growing-being comfortable with your body.
Beatrice: Yes. Too big.
Kimberly: Yes. Too small.
Ena: Yes. Too big
Why do you think men and the media are fascinated with women's breast?
Martie: Men are supposedly more visual than women, women are more analytical. But then again, babies are more tactile but they do try to grab at every breast they see, or do they? But you can't blame the babies-breasts mean food to them. Breasts are somewhat of an oddity. They serve no purpose until a child is born, but yet the equipment is all in place some 10 to 15 years before the actual event takes place. A woman's pelvic bones spread and hips widen as the baby grows, why can't breasts operate the same way? Yes, media is predominately owned/run by men, but even in publications that were started by women and for women, there is almost always some spread about a bra that can make a woman look one full cup-size bigger, or tips on how to create optical illusions with textured fabrics-vertically ribbed sweaters-that make the bust area look fuller. Playtex doesn't place ads in Field & Stream, they put ads in Glamour and Essence.
Ashley: I am not sure about other countries, but everyone, in some shape or fashion, love boobs, no matter the size. It is 98-percent maternal-they are our first rest, peace, outside the womb. Then they should give us pleasure on both ends. It seems like a win-win to me.
Shay: It is definitely not a coincidence that men run the media and the media rule the world. Media cultivation theory: the media not only tell us what to think about, but how to think about the issues served up. Everyone has an ass. It would have been distasteful, but the advantage of having breasts-no matter how small they are-is that men don't have them and they obsess over them.
Tachelle: Because men dominate the media industry and they have an infatuation with the body of women. It's just gone too far to the left. It takes strong women to bring the images of women back to the right-where society upholds the beauty of women.
Kimberly: European[-Americans] own the media here and have a different eye for beauty compared to African-centered nations. I don't know why they're so fascinated with breasts.
Ena: I think that misogyny requires tools for objectifying, and therefore minimizing the dignity of women in order to justify the politics of sexism. Our breasts are just a tool, because it is an obvious distinguishing characteristic.
Nadra: I think it's connected to the comfort of being a baby. Bosoms are beautiful and represent comfort and nourishment. The aesthetic symmetry of their form also might contribute the fascination.
Do you like your breasts?
Beatrice: I like the way my breasts look when I lay down
Ashley: Yes, both of them, especially after I realized I could suck them myself, and that if you squeeze the nipples really hard that [the feeling] shoots straight to the clit; that was a fantastic discovery.
Shay: I do. They are small, but they fit. I can't imagine having larger boobs.
Tachelle: I do love my breasts. We have been together a good 15 years.
Martie: Yes, they fit my frame; I think that I'm well proportioned.
Ena: Sometimes I just love my breasts. Like when I'm naked and don't have to dress them up. I like looking at them in the mirror. And through my lover's eyes. The problem arises in how to clothe them. I don't like wearing a bra, so I often wish they were smaller so I don't have to think about support. I'm extremely happy on the rare occasion that I comfortably get away with wearing no bra when I go out.
Nadra: Yes. Some days more than others.