Aaryn Belfer

Aaryn is an opinionated woman who will say anything and stop at nothing when it comes to fighting for racial and social justice. She has a penchant for 4-inch heels, straight-ahead jazz, and beautifully structured sentences. She's deeply committed to her family yet she refuses, under any circumstance, to deny her lust for Javier Bardem. Though...lately, Michael B. Jordan has been blowin' her hair back; it's safe to say, May-December romances are more socially acceptable than ever. Aaryn will tirelessly—and to the death—defend Monica Lewinsky, and not just because she has enviable hair: We all know that if we were in her MLew's shoes, we'd have walked that same damn mile in a blue Gap dress. Ms. Belfer would like to officially change her name to Aaryn Darling because she likes the way it sounds upon being introduced at cocktail parties.

Must we really go through this still? It's 2007, after all. Is being gay really that fringy? more

Sep 1, 2007 12:00 AM Backwards & in High Heels


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As a parent of a tween, I’m closer to an empty nest than a swing set. Meaning, I gotta have stuff on the agenda for the family, but also for my own damn self. Behold, there’s something for everyone here. more

Oct 17, 2017 3:33 PM Best of San Diego

It’s a carnival act of getting my formerly-compliant baby—now a full-size, willful person with an arsenal of withering side-eye—out the door to school without breaking her spirit. more

Oct 9, 2017 1:06 PM Backwards & in High Heels


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“The thing about those iconic bookstores is that they became iconic in a completely organic way,” Marko said. “None of their founders set out to become icons of the bookselling world, but they engaged with their communities." more

Sep 25, 2017 12:00 AM Backwards & in High Heels 4 Comments


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How many DACA Dreamers, I wondered, were in these cars, headed to their internships, their science labs, their college classes, their jobs? more

Sep 11, 2017 2:09 PM Backwards & in High Heels


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It was strange for me when, in the wake of the Charlottesville horror show, I found myself vaguely, if reluctantly, cheering Swift on. more

Aug 29, 2017 3:23 PM Backwards & in High Heels 2 Comments

Zsa Zsa Gabor is dead. Not the actress—though that’s also true—but the experimental noise project by Stay Strange founder Sam Lopez, who recently performed his last show under the project’s name. more

Aug 15, 2017 4:35 PM Notes from the Smoking Patio


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The “grossly vanilla,” as one writer friend called it, San Diego Festival of Books is a Wonder Bread factory. more

Aug 15, 2017 3:39 PM Backwards & in High Heels 2 Comments

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On Saturday, August 5th, Pillars of the Community as well as Sutton, Aaron Harvey and others, will be offering a free, one-day conference to tackle this issue. more

Jul 31, 2017 1:45 PM Backwards & in High Heels

Last week marked the second anniversary of the death of Sandra Bland. Three days earlier, I arrived home from a week at the same Lake Tahoe mountain lodge where I was when, just last year, Alton Sterling and Philando Castile were murdered. more

Jul 17, 2017 4:20 PM Backwards & in High Heels

I really don’t know what I’m doing. If it weren’t for Frances Jensen’s life-altering book The Teenage Brain, the wheels would be coming off. As hard as it seemed at the time, the toddler and grade-school years were so much easier. more

Jul 3, 2017 7:27 PM Backwards & in High Heels

I dreaded making the call to my mother in Seattle, but after reading two cryptic Facebook posts by my brother, I knew I had to involve her. I also knew that I’d be ruining her day. more

Jun 19, 2017 4:54 PM Backwards & in High Heels 1 Comments

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And so I stretched those 14 non-news days into six weeks before I reclined back into Instagram, the safest social media space left for me. It is on IG that I have followed various artists as a reprieve from the news more

Jun 5, 2017 5:55 PM Backwards & in High Heels


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There are some very real and very serious issues to be addressed during public comments at these meetings, and the anger was raw last week. While this isn’t unusual, this particular meeting was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. more

May 23, 2017 2:56 PM Backwards & in High Heels 18 Comments


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The district came up with a solution to the overcrowding without significant stakeholder input, inviting 10-ish parents (a group pliable and amenable to the idea, IMO) to provide feedback. more

May 9, 2017 3:49 PM Backwards & in High Heels 6 Comments


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Reader, my house was quiet. As in a total absence of an adolescent human noise machine moving from room to room testing out all the various sounds it can make. more

Apr 25, 2017 2:18 PM Backwards & in High Heels

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Michael Brown, 18, due to be buried on Monday, was no angel… These were the words used by New York Times reporter John Eligon 15 days after Brown was shot and killed by a police officer in Ferguson, Missouri. more

Apr 11, 2017 6:47 PM Backwards & in High Heels

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When I met Reggie Harmon for the first time, it was over the phone and through a pane of glass at the George F. Bailey Detention Center in Otay Mesa. more

Mar 27, 2017 4:15 PM Backwards & in High Heels


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Lo, the Ides of March. On this day in 44 BC, Julius Caesar was stabbed to death by a group of 60 of his friends and colleagues during a senate meeting. Sounds like one hell of a cloture vote if you ask me. You can’t say the guy wasn’t warned. more

Mar 13, 2017 12:00 AM Backwards & in High Heels 2 Comments


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The day I began typing these words, devastating images of Standing Rock in flames flooded my social media feeds. My eyes flooded with tears and my heart broke yet again. more

Feb 27, 2017 3:02 PM Backwards & in High Heels


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In just over two weeks, we have experienced a precipitous change in altitude and collective drop of the stomach. We are on a very rapid, very dangerous descent thanks in part—though not solely—to 45, as I’m going to call him. more

Feb 13, 2017 3:10 PM Backwards & in High Heels 3 Comments

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