Aaryn Belfer

Aaryn is an opinionated woman who will say anything and stop at nothing when it comes to fighting for racial and social justice. She has a penchant for 4-inch heels, straight-ahead jazz, and beautifully structured sentences. She's deeply committed to her family yet she refuses, under any circumstance, to deny her lust for Javier Bardem. Though...lately, Michael B. Jordan has been blowin' her hair back; it's safe to say, May-December romances are more socially acceptable than ever. Aaryn will tirelessly—and to the death—defend Monica Lewinsky, and not just because she has enviable hair: We all know that if we were in her MLew's shoes, we'd have walked that same damn mile in a blue Gap dress. Ms. Belfer would like to officially change her name to Aaryn Darling because she likes the way it sounds upon being introduced at cocktail parties.

Must we really go through this still? It's 2007, after all. Is being gay really that fringy? more

Sep 1, 2007 12:00 AM Backwards & in High Heels

I dreaded making the call to my mother in Seattle, but after reading two cryptic Facebook posts by my brother, I knew I had to involve her. I also knew that I’d be ruining her day. more

Jun 19, 2017 4:54 PM Backwards & in High Heels 1 Comments

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And so I stretched those 14 non-news days into six weeks before I reclined back into Instagram, the safest social media space left for me. It is on IG that I have followed various artists as a reprieve from the news more

Jun 5, 2017 5:55 PM Backwards & in High Heels


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There are some very real and very serious issues to be addressed during public comments at these meetings, and the anger was raw last week. While this isn’t unusual, this particular meeting was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. more

May 23, 2017 2:56 PM Backwards & in High Heels 17 Comments


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The district came up with a solution to the overcrowding without significant stakeholder input, inviting 10-ish parents (a group pliable and amenable to the idea, IMO) to provide feedback. more

May 9, 2017 3:49 PM Backwards & in High Heels 4 Comments


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Reader, my house was quiet. As in a total absence of an adolescent human noise machine moving from room to room testing out all the various sounds it can make. more

Apr 25, 2017 2:18 PM Backwards & in High Heels

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Michael Brown, 18, due to be buried on Monday, was no angel… These were the words used by New York Times reporter John Eligon 15 days after Brown was shot and killed by a police officer in Ferguson, Missouri. more

Apr 11, 2017 6:47 PM Backwards & in High Heels

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When I met Reggie Harmon for the first time, it was over the phone and through a pane of glass at the George F. Bailey Detention Center in Otay Mesa. more

Mar 27, 2017 4:15 PM Backwards & in High Heels


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Lo, the Ides of March. On this day in 44 BC, Julius Caesar was stabbed to death by a group of 60 of his friends and colleagues during a senate meeting. Sounds like one hell of a cloture vote if you ask me. You can’t say the guy wasn’t warned. more

Mar 13, 2017 12:00 AM Backwards & in High Heels 2 Comments


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The day I began typing these words, devastating images of Standing Rock in flames flooded my social media feeds. My eyes flooded with tears and my heart broke yet again. more

Feb 27, 2017 3:02 PM Backwards & in High Heels


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In just over two weeks, we have experienced a precipitous change in altitude and collective drop of the stomach. We are on a very rapid, very dangerous descent thanks in part—though not solely—to 45, as I’m going to call him. more

Feb 13, 2017 3:10 PM Backwards & in High Heels 3 Comments


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Let’s be real about who gets to protest peacefully. To all m’ladies of the Caucasian persuasion: Can we talk for just a sec about peaceful protests like we didn’t invent them? Because we did not. more

Jan 30, 2017 3:09 PM Backwards & in High Heels 1 Comments

The Arab Spring held so much promise for Syrians like Ammar Kawkab, a Kurdish refugee from the northeastern city of Al-Qamishli who, along with his wife and four children, settled in City Heights on June 2, 2016. more

Jan 17, 2017 4:51 PM Family Issue 1 Comments


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There was a time, in what seems so long ago that I barely remember, when my husband and I brought a baby into our home through transracial adoption. more

Jan 16, 2017 4:00 PM Backwards & in High Heels

I earned a standing ovation from my 11-year-old by doing a simple thing just before New Year's Eve: I deleted the Facebook app from my phone. more

Jan 3, 2017 11:11 AM Backwards & in High Heels 2 Comments

Many writers offer Top 10, best-of lists around this time, but not me. I am in a bad place, fighting the urge to stay in bed under layers of heavy blankets with the curtains drawn so no sunlight gets in. more

Dec 29, 2016 5:13 PM Backwards & in High Heels


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Aleppo. Aleppo. Aleppo. Aleppo. more

Dec 19, 2016 4:00 PM Backwards & in High Heels

Now more than ever, this space is extremely precious. As we Americans have taken a collective belly flop from the edge of a very big cliff, I feel a responsibility to say something meaningful, but I also need to be silly and ridiculous as means of re more

Dec 7, 2016 10:30 AM Backwards & in High Heels

So. My last column was right-ish: Hillary Rodham Clinton, the most qualified person—woman or man—to ever run for the most important office in the world, won in a landslide. more

Nov 21, 2016 12:00 AM Backwards & in High Heels

It is, as I type this column, days before what has turned out to be the most traumatizing election campaign I've ever experienced. more

Nov 7, 2016 12:00 AM Backwards & in High Heels

As Daddy drove us home from dinner the other night, when I sat next to you in the back seat, a miracle occurred. You scooted close to me, laid your head in my lap and wrapped your arms tight around my legs. more

Oct 24, 2016 12:00 AM Backwards & in High Heels