There She Goz
Family bonding in the bar
Bars are in my blood. Not because I’m an alcoholic, though I suppose that is debatable. I consulted the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders on this and my conclusion is... probably not? Read more
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Check your facts and your privilege
Recently, the San Diego Union-Tribune published an opinion piece that originally ran in The Washington Post titled “How to make feminism great again.” Read more
Photo by Alex Zaragoza
Trump is President, and escaping to Mexico did not help
The nightmare has come true. America seems to be in full regression mode, electing a big-mouthed bigot, racist, misogynist and all-around terrible human being as President of the United States. Read more
Sluts and nasty women, and proud
Being a woman in this country comes with all sorts of misogynistic labels. Nearly every single woman in the world can tell stories of being demeaned and degraded with words and actions. Read more
Fears and fascinations at the Catacombs of Paris
Keep calm and remember everyone will die. That's what the world's most nihilistic coffee mug read—a quirky souvenir at the Paris Catacombs gift shop. Everyone will die. Remember. Everyone. Will. Die. Read more
What Frida Kahlo taught me about womanhood
We stood in line outside the Frida Kahlo Museum in Mexico City, eating fresh mango with Tajin and chamoy, cackling at the world’s stupidest jokes like a coven of drunk witches and taking photos against the bright, cobalt blue walls of the o... Read more
Let’s stop serving food shame
There's a reason that when shilling for Weight Watchers on television Oprah feels the need declare, in big, bold Oprah fashion, "I love bread! You can eat bread!" As if admitting that you enj Read more
The trouble with being a sister and an ally
"We don't shop at Target," said my sister while lounging on a lawn chair. It was 117 degrees out in her Los Angeles backyard. Perhaps that was a premonition for the heated discussion to come. Read more
Are we there yet on gun control?
It's been widely reported as the deadliest mass shooting in United States history. But let's be real here and add "for now" to the end of that. Read more
The Stanford rapist and the power of language as a weapon
"She's really pretty for a black girl. She doesn't have those grotesque features black people have." "Why is that woman nominated for an Oscar? She's not pretty. And she's fat." "I don't wan Read more
Photo by Melissa Sweet
Summer Cool: Wine me, dine me, Jacuzzi time me
Despite the awful heat-induced headaches and eczema-related rash flare-ups that sweating inflicts on my body, summer is my most favorite time of year. Read more
What to do and not to do when high af
Full disclosure: I'm not much of a pot smoker. I don't even know if using the term "pot smoker" is so abominably lame that I just outed myself as the most embarrassing nana that ever lived. Read more
How to be a grown woman and steal alcohol from rappers
There are moments, especially since hitting my 30s, where I become self-aware of how hard I'm adulting. It's mildly unnerving. Anytime I use the word "strategy" or briskly walk down a hallway while wearing a lanyard I feel like a character ... Read more
Nose rings, breakups and non-Trump culture
When you're a member of a minority culture (though I think Mexicans are getting closer to being the majority in San Diego), you often find yourself explaining even the small nuances of life to friends and acquaintances outside it. Read more
Why you should love your vagina
"Were you embarrassed about your vagina showing?" a friend asked in our long-running Facebook group chat. It's a fair question. Vaginas are our "private parts" after all, and I was letting Read more
Dear white dudes…
Oh, white dudes. Y'all got real mad at me last month when I called out your privilege. More than the usual amount, which is substantial in itself. I don't respond to anything I've written bec Read more
Top 10 ways I’ve been disappointed in 2015
In a classic episode titled "The Strike" on the seminal sitcom Seinfeld , which aired from July 1989 to May of 1998 (Thanks, Internet!) on NBC, a holiday known as "Festivus" became part of popular culture. Read more
Minnie Mouse says it’s time to move the body
It's strange and off-putting to talk about your dead aunt with a person wearing Minnie Mouse ears. I learned this on Halloween night. Read more
The sound and the k-pop fury
The Staples Center was lit up by thousands of little yellow torches. About 20,000 individual screams created one cacophonous wave that filled the darkened arena like a raging monsoon. The throngs were Read more
Things you learn from Jello wrestling
Jello has an interesting way of lodging itself all the way up and into your butt crack. Getting it all the way out is not only difficult, it also allows you to reacquaint yourself with your own body. Read more
Photos by Rebecca Garcia
Ice cream for the people!
The second my face felt the thick, clammy Havana air, my stress melted away. My contour makeup also melted away so my face looked like I’d just witnessed the opening of the Ark of the Covenant, minus the whole Nazi thing. Read more